How to get a fuck buddy

In most cases, fuck buddies are just not planned. It just seems to happen by itself.

Unlike love, the characteristic about fuck buddies is that there is no planning, no first impressions and definitely no heartfelt gifts.

And the rest just seems to happen all by itself. [Quiz: Are you a fuck buddy potential?]

Of course, there has to be a wee bit of lustful flirting and mutual attraction. Other than that, there’s nothing at all that should be done to start a fuck buddy relationship. [Read: Are you falling for a friend?]

When do people become fuck buddies?

It can happen when you least expect it. And surprisingly, most of the times, a fuck buddy is found when you’re down in the pits, almost always when you’re trying to get over a broken relationship. [Read: How to get over a broken heart]

Adie, a 26 year old working at an advertising firm says she has a fuck buddy with whom she’s physically intimate, and loves the fact that she has someone with whom she can relate physically, and yet not be held down by the rules of love,

Says Adie, “It’s great to have a sex buddy actually. I used to go out with a guy who I thought was great. Things were perfect, and one fine day, I catch him necking a colleague of mine in the parking lot. I broke up with him with a straight face, but inside, I was devastated. I poured my heart out to this guy who’s a great friend of mine, and a consoling hug led from a simple hug to an all out lustful romp.”

One can end up becoming fuck buddies with a common friend, not just through an act of consoling, but also on a drunken escapade. One pint too many can have your hands moving over more than just the curves of your glass, and you’d probably end up with your arms round the shoulder of an attractive friend.

And well, a roving hand just can’t stop over a warm shoulder, can it? [Read: How to flirt by touching]

The bright side of fuck buddies

When you’re ambitious and cannot understand the point of thinking about someone else’s feelings and happiness, or if you just don’t want to be held down by another person’s feelings, a fuck buddy is a perfect solution. You don’t have to keep in touch with this person every day or every week, nor do you have to remember anniversaries or put up with cute little love tantrums.

But you can always call your fuck buddy and go all the way, whenever and wherever you want. This form of non-committal love can be fun, if you’re still looking for that hint of long term love, but just don’t want to jump in, especially if you’ve always felt that true love can wait while you explore the different opportunities life has to offer.

And most people, who are afraid of commitment, and even more scared of the typical one night stand, find this whole arrangement of fuck buddies a bit more secure and comforting. [Read: How I stole my friend's one stand]

Is there a dark side of fuck buddies?

As much as I’d love to prove that there is a deep, dark abyss to fuck buddies, there just isn’t one. There’s nothing wrong in hooking up with someone just because you are physically attracted to someone.

Nor is there anything wrong in having someone as a fuck buddy just because this person is your buddy. And are you going to get an STD by doing this? Well, as much as we’d like to skirt the issue, no one is ever completely safe from an STD, we all have heard of cheating partners and the ‘I-just-wanted-to-know-how-it-would-feel-like’ types of lovers.

The only issue that may crop up is, perhaps, you falling in love with your fuck buddy or getting a huge crush on them. [Read: Do you have a crush on your friend?]

Getting yourself a fuck buddy

Remember, getting yourself a fuck buddy is very different from getting yourself a loving partner. It just doesn’t work the same way. You can’t woo someone into sleeping with you, or get them drunk in the hope of having sex. It has to happen naturally, over time. And there has to be mutual sexual attraction.

But the best way to get yourself a fuck buddy is by text flirting and seeing if your hot friend starts reciprocating. We’ve got an entire guide on text flirting here, which should help you get yourself an attractive fuck buddy.

Now that you know how to get a fuck buddy, go on and read about its advantages and little disadvantages in the fuck buddy guide.